4 Simple Ways To Resolve Any Conflict like a Zen Master
When you think about it, we mostly think of a conflict as something to be feared. In fact, many of us perceive a conflict as a signal that we might have done something wrong. A s a reveller, based on research and experience, let me tell you that it is this very reason that block us from handling these situations better.
In fact, understand that conflict is essentially a form of clarification, that allows us to bring to light all the misunderstandings and hurt that we have with someone. Please smile now, knowingly that conflict offers an opportunity for mending to take place. We came across the concept of WOMP. Guess what? It is not a big deal that you may not do all these steps in the right order the first time. You can give yourself as many chances to practice on your own. Just like anything that you decide to learn, a transformation will become visible little by little until one day you will smile conscious of your achievement.
So tell me, what is a conflict you dont want to deal with ? Will it make your life easier if you detach yourself from it? Let me know how you a=handled past conflict.
Try these words: “Can I talk to you briefly if you have time?”
VOMP is an acronym for a formula to help deal productively with conflict.
- Voice your concerns/experience: “Venting includes Listening and checking the other for impact .”
- Own your responsibility in the issue: “Here’s my contribution to the mess.”
- eMpathize with the other person: “This is what I think/feel it’s like to be in your shoes.”
- Plan for what will change in the future: “I want you to understand how much I love and value you. You are my partner and I am grateful that you are in my life and for everything that you do for me. What could I do differently to make that real for you?” Negotiate what will be the plan going forward; how do to things different or not repeat them on both sides.
Zee – @Otowndon